I have been on facebook for a while, and have started using it with more frequency in the past year, but recently I have been more self conscious of the social norms on facebook. To be honest, I have no idea about them and have recently consulted my resident facebook advisor Danny Armstrong.
Before I was in the singles ward I had no new friends, which meant I had no dilemma concerning new facebook friend requests. I was always under the impression that you had to ask someone to be a facebook friend in person, then you could do it. But I have been recently informed that you can just add people that you have only met once and maybe not even talked to for half a minute and its not totally rude. Is this true?!
Now that I'm in a new culture (ward) with many new faces to meet, facebook has taken on an entirely new and scary turn. I had always viewed facebook as a way to keep up with old friends but I can see it now in its entirety... and I have fully embraced the evil. The twisted reality is that Facebook is super stalkerish. I find myself looking at peoples pages I don't even know and have never even seen in my life!
How does this translate into other parts of my life now? When I finally meet that person should I be a total liar and ask questions I already know the answers to? Or should my creepy side be out in the open for all to view? Should I ask that attractive girl if the mole on her back is cancerous and advise her to get it looked at because I saw it on facebook?
I have usually had all my profile stuff available for view, because I highly doubted anyone would even be interested in my page unless I knew them in person. I don't think I want to have a conversation with anyone I just met where that person talks about my teenage acne that they saw in my facebook pictures...
I need some serious help to this newly found problem in my life!
Digital Creations
8 years ago
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ReplyDeleteSince there are no official rules to Facebook usage, I bet you'll get contradicting advice in response to your questions.
ReplyDeleteAs far as friend requests go, it is perfectly acceptable to ask people to be your Facebook friend with barely knowing them. Some people use Facebook as a way to meet people. Friend requests and responses are completely up to you and are rarely criticized.
My personal "Friend Rule" follow loosely on the following guideline:
~Accept/Ask for friend requests from people you would actually talk to in real life.
*Note: some people ask for or accept friend requests from everyone. I don't like this because then your Facebook News Feed gets cluttered with lots of stuff you don't care about.
As for Facebook stalking, I believe it's generally accepted, but never appropriate to admit(at least to the person you stalked). If people think it is weird that you looked at their page, they shouldn't have put it up for the world to see.
Conversation. In my opinion, it's best to ask questions you already know answers to, but try to steer the conversation towards what you're actually interested in. I think it's okay to be somewhat informed, just not so much that it's creepy.
Good Luck!
-Craig C.
PS I don't know why it says my name is Jim.
It's seriously scary. I find myself doing the same thing as you and looking at people that I've never met or have intentions of meeting. If someone I didn't know asked me about something I posted on my FB, I might be really creeped out! Good luck with the whole new facebook scene:)
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